Excerpt from Chapter 3


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(for men)

"How did I (Luis) expect my wife to submit, love, and respect me if I was not doing everything that God wanted me to do for her first? In other words, Christ made the sacrifice to surrender His life, so that we can have life, because He loves us. Just as He sacrificed life for His the church, who represents his bride, I had to do the same for my bride.       

If I wanted my marriage to last, I had to love and serve her as Christ loves and serves the Church. I had to make sacrifices to be more loving, patient, caring, and understanding. Because of the love Christ had for the church, he gave up His life for her. I had to be willing to sacrifice my entire life for my wife."


For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body.


Ephesians 5:25-29, NLT




(for women)

"Respect is one of the main things that empowers and encourages your husband in your marriage. When you submit to your husband, you’re saying you respect and honor God’s authority in your marriage and family. This means that you have to be careful not to have a bad attitude when things aren’t the way you expected. A bad attitude is disrespectful, and discouraging.

Make sure that your attitude toward your husband is loving and respectful. This helps your husband to become the husband he is meant to be, the father he is meant to be, and the spiritual man he is meant to be. When you respect and honor your husband, it can help draw him closer to God."


Wives, respect and obey your husbands in the same way. Then the husbands who do not obey the word of God will want to know God. They will want to know God because their wives live good lives, even though they say nothing about God. They will see that you live holy lives and respect your husbands. You should not be fine on the outside only. Some women make their hair nice. They wear gold things. They have fine clothes. But you must be fine in your heart. Have a heart that is gentle and quiet. That will not wear out. And God thinks it is worth very much. There were holy women long ago who trusted in God. They made themselves nice in this way. They obeyed their husbands. Sarah obeyed Abraham. She called him her master. You are her children if you do what is right and are not afraid of trouble.

1 Peter 3:1-6 (WE)